When a mom like me say, “I need a break,” I’m sure most of us moms are not talking about a get-away vacation or a grand holiday.
It only means, we just want a small fragment of our time away from home.
Maybe 2-3 hours max.
I mean, a little time to break away from our daily routine.
Having a break is like finding a breathing space from our responsibilities at home.
For us moms, it means that we need a moment to feel like ourselves again.
You know somehow after the daily grind, when we often feel we don’t belong to ourselves anymore?
My friend Jing shares a very thoughtful observation of how she feels when she’s with friends:
My friends are like support group where I can be myself, besides being a mom and a wife. Mothers most of the time have the same wavelength . We need people who understand the ups and downs of motherhood; the highs we feel when our children make us proud and sometimes the disappointments when things are not going how we wished it would be. We are 24/7 mothers aside from the jobs some of us do. Hay, nakakapagod din, and sometimes we need the “MY time” also and what better way to spend it than with friends!
The point of a break when you’re a stay-at-home parent or even a working mom is to get out for a little laugh and let loose with friends. Though I support moms who love being by themselves and shopping, etc., I still prefer spending “mommy breaks” with friends.
This year, I made a resolution to meet with my mommy friends more often than last year. I want to spend more “mommy breaks” with them. One reason is because I want to develop a more deep and meaningful friendly relationship with this group of beautiful women.
I have two groups of mommy friends and they’re both special to me. They are always warm and true to themselves. They pick their everyday battles and win them single-handedly. They are true winners by choice.
My friend Cel, described being with friends as an avenue to release stress.
Here are 5 reasons why a good mommy break with friends is essential to the heart and soul.
#1 Your Friends Help You De-Stress
Nothing beats a good LOL!
Being around friends can make you feel happier, and laughter is a good way to release nerves.
I read that when we are stressed we are compromising not only our physical health but also our mental health. And having a friend to share your mommy break with is a good indication that we won’t go insane anytime soon.
I like what my friend Lani and Rhoda said when I prompted them with this question: Why do you think meeting with friends is beneficial to a mother’s health?
They’re a breath of fresh air. Mga taong alam mong makaka-relate sa mga mommy-talks na hindi mo masabi sa iba.
Moment ko ito! This is what Rhoda said. I didn’t asked her the question in person but I imagined the energy she puts in when she typed this words and sent it to me. I imagined her holding a trophy when she’s saying this words!
#2 They’re Not Your Momma!
You might be so close to your own mother that you seek out her advice on marriage, motherhood, and even on what to serve for dinner.
But no matter how awesome your mother is, sometimes we need someone else.
Have you noticed when you are talking to your mom, her words sometimes become more a command than advice and by the end of conversation, you feel like you are obliged to do as she says?
We need our friends to remind us that we’re not perfect mothers, that there are rules made to be broken once in a while. Finally, we want our friends who share our values, and sometimes that’s just not Mom.
#3 Your Friends Have Always The Most Brutal Say
You’re wearing heavy makeup at kid’s birthday party. You would probably get a nudge from your friend, who tells you something like this: “Why did you paint your face like a pick-up girl?” You both laugh and you end up in the powder room washing your face because you think your friend has made her point.
I remember a couple of years ago I attended a wedding celebration. When I meet with my best friend, I showed her the photos of me taken from the wedding. She pointed at my dress and said, “You’re wearing this? It’s ugly!” My best friend is a sweetheart; she’s the only person I allow to talk to me like that. But looking at my picture again, I thought to myself, it really is ugly and not your customary wedding-guest get-up! I was wearing a black and purple sleeveless loose dress. (The truth is, I really have poor taste when picking clothes to wear on special occasions.)
Your friends will give you the most truthful – and tactful – answers.
#4 They Get It Like Your Husband Can’t
You go to the parlor every week to have your hair and your nails done. You are doing this to feel good after stressful work and as a form of reward for yourself after doing a pile of laundry.
Or sometimes you spend hours in the bathroom trying out a couple of body washes you just bought.
Your husband doesn’t get it.
That’s why it’s such a relief to talk to a mom friend who does get it.
Your husband faces an insurmountable gender gap when it comes to fully understanding why you frequently go to the parlor or why it takes you an hour to finish bathing. But other mothers can validate the fact that mothering is hard work and giving ourselves some time to make ourselves look good is important.
#5 They’ve Been There, Done That
It’s great to be able to commiserate on a daily basis with mom friends who have kids at the same age and stage. But it’s an added bonus to have friends with kids of different ages. Friends with older children can clue you in on what to expect.
My friend Jing has a daughter in college. Her daughter is an exceptional student (and I think brilliant!). She blush every time she tell stories about her daughter’s latest academic achievements. Raising children is a tough job but cultivating the genius in them is another thing. I look up to Jing on this one.
Most important, though, many of the connections we with other women through motherhood – even if they started out at the playground, or a small chat while waiting our turn in the cashier of a grocery store – may last a lifetime. They are like a gift from God we don’t have a choice but to keep in our hearts and let it flourish!
Happy Thursday Mommies!
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Take care ladies!