Why I Don’t Want to be Ordinary: 2 Reasons Mediocrity is Killing Me

quote marieforleoYou feel it, right?



You, the plain and simple YOU.

If you frequent my blog and are my regular reader by heart, chances are we share something in common.


The urge to be less ordinary. A little less mediocre.

All good is hard. All evil is easy. Dying, losing, cheating, and mediocrity is easy. Stay away from easy.  – Scott Alexander

I am mediocre.

The truth is, I’m addicted to mediocrity. It’s the easy way around. No opinion, no idea to share, no conviction of anything, doesn’t side to any argument. I’m the typical boring person.

But the truth is, it’s killing me.

I remember growing up having big dreams. I remember dreaming of becoming a TV newscaster and an English teacher when I grew up.  In college I thought of starting my own magazine publishing company after I graduated. Heck, I even dreamt of becoming a poet.

But none of those dreams came true, though.

After I graduated from college I worked on mediocre jobs. After a couple of years I became a wife and a mother of four, sitting all day in front of my computer doing a work-at-home mediocre job and wait for my husbands’ pay. I don’t complain; life is good, we all get to eat and can send our children to a good school.

But in all honesty, I am by far an ordinary soul waiting for things to unfold in front of me. How many mothers like me do that? Sit all day and wait? A lot, right? A lot of mediocre souls like me.

It’s easy being plain and simple.

But no matter how mediocre my life is, I just can’t shake the feeling that this isn’t it.

This isn’t the life that is mine; it’s not the life I was built for. 

We’ve all got our own version of mediocrity – what’s yours?

OK, don’t get me wrong. I truly respect those mothers who stay home to mind their household and children.  I know that we all walk in different paths of life and I respect the fact that my version of mediocrity is different from everyone else’s. I’m not setting any standard of mediocrity here. So feel free to share your version of mediocrity and I promise I won’t play judge. 🙂

My version of mediocrity is to stay at home, work on my mediocre job that brings in a little pay, and do unexciting daily tasks because I have nothing else to do and I’m pretty stuck. The best part is, I’m used to it.

So one day I indulged myself in solitude and realized my reasons why I should unstick myself from being mediocre and start aspiring for greatness. Here are my 2 reasons:

1. I don’t want my children to be mediocre. To be plain Jane or plain Joe. I want them to be the BEST that they can be and the only way I can teach them that is by becoming a good example.  I want them to look back and tell themselves, “My mom was never a loser. My mom fought long and hard to achieve her dreams and never settled for mediocrity.”

2.  I don’t want to deny God’s gift to me. I always think that each of us was born with a gift from God – besides life, of course. He sent us here to perform a special mission for him; he equipped us with talents and skills ready to be called upon if we are persistent enough to hold on our tasks. My favorite web TV host said it best:

“The world needs that special gift that only you have.” —Marie Forleo

I’m 34 and I’m just starting to admit that I’m living a mediocre life.

Well, I’m thankful that I’m not in my 90’s, in my death bed reciting the things I should have done when I’m still capable.  I still have a loooooooong way to go.  In fact just recently I wrote down a bucket list, one that plays closest to my heart is having a school soon and becoming a popular book writer, so popular that it will be translated in many languages so I could reach out to as many as I can.

I feel ambitious.

But who the hell cares?



A couple of weeks ago I attended a John Robert Power Workshop for free through Mommy Bloggers Philippines.

I’m so grateful for the experience. We were taught voice communication, social and business etiquette. The experience was exhilarating, I became really serious about saving money to enroll in their full course in the next quarter. I’m enthralled by the teachers; they are all well-dressed. They walk like true professionals. They speak with grace and elegance. You might think that if you finish the whole course you will be like them: elegant, graceful, resonating control and leadership. It’s one of the many steps forward I’m taking this year to move away from the status quo to become who I really want to be.

It’s one baby step for me.


Now it’s your turn…take your first step to greatness. Believe you can, read more than you watch, surround yourself with winners and promise to yourself to be the best that you can be regardless of what other people says about you.  Be brave my friend, you can do it.

Talk soon. 🙂






1 comment on Why I Don’t Want to be Ordinary: 2 Reasons Mediocrity is Killing Me

  1. Lani
    June 12, 2014 at 2:50 am (4 years ago)

    Very inspiring Joy 🙂


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